INTRODUCTION
Many people in affection and Marriage relationship are in a serious debt today and do not know the way out of it. Sadly enough, it is a serious burden that some couples, even Christian couples or families are facing today especially in this time of global Economic Melt-down and as a result they are weighed down, confused, worry, frustrated and even so ashamed of themselves. As couples in Affection and Marriage relationship. It is the will of God for you to live a debt-free life; and I mean God wants you to live a life that is debt free. Consequently, it is not the will of God for you to live and also die as a debtor. And of course I doubt it if any debtor will enter into Heaven. But no hassles! Because there is solution to this horrible situation and that is why I am here to place the solution into your hands by sharing with you the secrets and Godly principles that can help you to live a life that is free from debt. Are you ready?
PROBLEM THAT IS ASSOCIATED WITH DEBT IN AFFECTION AND MARRIAGE RELATIONSHIP
When anyone in affection and marriage relationship is debt, is apparently becomes an obligation that such ones must settle the debt. And obviously it is very much get indebted than to pay what is own back. Debt as a matter of fact becomes a source of worry and concern. It also influences ones life negatively and most time, the so called creditors tends to dictate how you to run your affairs as a debtor. Meaning that the borrowers are servants to their lenders. Read more on this in book of Prov. 22:7. Debt also bring shame, it make one a bankrupt especially when the debt is so huge that property must be sold to meet some obligations. In such a situation mentioned above, it affects one personal life and ones relationship. It has also render some people paralyzed in their body, brain, legs and arms, and some have even died as a result of debt owed.
Moreover, debt as so become a very big problem that many in affection and marriage relationship do not know how to get out of it. Some couple makes the decision to commit suicide; some decide to run away while relatives and friends have decided to forsake some. In this light I conclude that debt is not good, and please couples do not make debt a way of life because it is very much better to stay away from debt especially when it is can be avoided.
CAUSES OF DEBT IN AFFECTION AND MARRIAGE RELATIONSHIP
There are so many reasons couples in affection and marriage relationship develop the habit of borrowing which later leads to debt. For example, some spouse because of the bad habits like, gambling, drunkenness, addiction to drugs, sexual thrilling, like patronizing prostitutes and maintaining concubines while some couples love to spend their so called good time in eateries, live in fabulous hotel, spend their vacations/leave in big and lovely places of the world, and some couples are very much concern about the latest cars, technology and fashions, when it so clear to them that they can not afford all these things. In other word some couple when borrowed find it difficult to pay back not because they do not have the resources but rather it has become their habit or culture not to pay back. But the Bible called such one wicked person, so if you are such a couple please repent now and deceased from such evil act Proverbs 21:17, 2Timothy 3:4 and Psalm 37:21.
SOME OTHER THINGS THAT LEAD TO DEBT IN AFFECTION AND MARRIAGE RELATIONSHIP
Some other things to debt in affection and marriage relationship are lack of wisdom and discretion in handling the affairs of their lives. Some couples sincerely lack wisdom in handling their finances and they are so much careless in the way they conduct their lives. Some spend much more than their earnings and some when they are promoted or get better jobs then they begins to have problems, why? Because they lack wisdom and discretion, and the Bible says “wisdom is the principal thing; so get wisdom… (Proverbs 4:7). Some couples spend money for some unnecessary parties and the so called projects, while others have had opportunities in life but they wasted them because they lack wisdom and discretion. The Bible says “of what use is money in the hands of a fool, since he or she has no desire to get wisdom” Proverbs 17:16. Many in affection and marriage relationship decide to ignore God’s injunction or command in the book of Malachi that says bring your whole tithe… , and I means some couple refuse to bring their tithe to God and as a result they brought God’s curse upon themselves which open the door of indebtedness in their lives.
HOW TO GET OUT OF DEBT IN AFFECTION AND MARRIAGE RELATIONSHIP EXPOSED
There are two major ways to get out of debt:
It is either you pay back the debt you owe or
Debt is written of
It is possible that the couples who are able to pay back get a better job, worker harder or conducted their affairs of their estate wisely or some person decides to help them by paying the bills and debt for them as an act of God’s mercy. Do you know that the later is what God did for you and me through His dear begotten son Jesus Christ Whom He sent to die for you and I on the cross of Calvary. Jesus paid the debt once and for all, Jesus did not owe and so to get out of debt as couples the first thing to do is to absolutely trust God for your finances, meaning that you are to depend on God to live above debt. (Read Psalm 125:1); get this straight away, if any in affection and marriage relationship start to worry about their financial problems it means that such couples trust in selves and own ability. It also means that such couple trusts in economy of their nation or the world. God warns in the Holy Bible to keep our lives free from the love of money also to be contend with what we have. He also assured us by telling you and I He will never leave you and never forsake you. The Lord is my helper, I will not be afraid. God the Almighty your creator, the owner and the initiator of affection and marriage is able to handle any kind of debt in your lives when you invite him into your life and marriage relationship and as well hand it over to Him. For God to help you it is a must for you to be faithful in paying your tithe, you must honor the Lord God as the source of your live and wealth (Proverbs 3:9-10). Couples also need to be patient and follow God’s way in dealing with their finances; for those who hasty or desperate to be rich fall into mischief. But he that gather money little by little makes it grow (proverbs 13:11). Be mindful not to venture into lottery and pools, getting credits from other person to put in high risk business, also you must be careful of get rich quick syndrome. Get this straight away; from my experience, being hasty or being rush never get a couple or couples out of trouble but instead it will get you into more trouble very fast. For any in affection and marriage relationship to get out of dept, you must work very hard; you must keep a very steady income, make progress little by little and absolutely trust God for the strength. Secondly: for any one in affection and marriage to get out of dept, it is a must for you to come up with a specific plan and a budget. For this will help you to move ahead on the basics of careful planning, not careless impulse. For if you plan carefully, it is a must that you will have plenty, and consequently, if you act too quickly you will never have enough. You should follow the budget as much as possible except when it is better to do otherwise. Following the above recommendations will help you to keep careful track of spending and you will be able to see the areas that is necessary to cut off the wastages. It will also help you to have a good payment plan that will result stress less payback. More so budgeting will also help you to save money so as to meet on expected expenses. Remember, money is a tool that God want you to use wisely but your ultimate love and affection must be for God, your creator and not money the unrighteous Marmon. My Conclusion for you: please never go into dept unnecessarily, when you find your selves in dept by situation that is beyond your control, God has a way of escape for you in his wisdom. Remember, it is not God will for any couple to be a perpetual debtor. I pray for you that God will help to live a dept free life in Jesus name, and you shall become lender to other in the mighty Name of Jesus Christ. SHALOM!
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Saturday, October 17, 2009
MY LIFE EXPERIENCE: The Power Tool for True Affection and Marriage Relationship.
My names are: Sinat Abegbe Agboolaogun and am married to Akanni Isaac Aboolaogun. My husband Akanni and I live in a village called Idimu-ota, In Ogun state of Nigeria. I have been married to my husband- Akanni very quiet a number of years but I noticed that something is missing in my relationship, with this wonderful husband of mine. I noticed that there was lack of affection in our relationship, meaning that even though my husband-Akanni was a wonderful husband to me in all other ways and our sexual relationship was very good, but aside our sexual act there was no affection in the relationship. But, sincerely it was not because my husband-Akanni did not love me as his wife, he actually loved me too well and I know. But my husband-Akanni problem which I latter discovered was the fact that affection was something he grew up without as a child. And as adage says: you cannot give what you don’t have” and that is the case with my husband-Akanni.
On my own part, the wife-Abegbe, I felt much guilty about the way I was feeling and I do not want to hurt or critise my husband-Akanni, but the fact remain that, I myself had not know affection even as a child too, and that is the reason I needed it so much in my marriage relationship. My situation got more tuff and tuff because one day I confronted my husband-Akanni with this problem and truly, my husband-Akanni at times would try to change but sooner things were always back to the same old story. And as a result of this my experience there was a great frustration and hurt in our marriage relationship. And I became hopeless and I was seriously dying inside of me. To me I could not imagine how I will live the rest of my life without affection and worse still, since I saw no hope of my husband-Akanni being change. One day, I was in this critical situation of my relationship when something suggested to my heart to apply prayers and immediately I got up and I went to my pastor, I mean our church pastor and I narrated my bitter experience to him and what my spirit told me to do. And trust our pastor, PTS O.J. Raheem, he did not waste a single time at all, he calls some prayer warriors and they immediately covered it in prayers even at every week of prayer meetings. And to my greatest shock God miraculously worked on my husband-Akanni and our situation turn around for better and I mean there was a serious radical turn around in our affection and marriage relationship up till date. My Comment:-having look around the world, my observation as a pastor, a researcher and marriage counselor reveals that Mr. Akanni and Mrs. Abegbe’s situation is never a rare one among couples in affection and marriage relationship. Many, even the so called godly men and women are living in an affection and marriage relationship that is already dead, why? Because there is o true, and living affection among them. Some spouse endures simply because their husbands are good in other ways or they do not bold enough to ask for the true. Living affection but sincerely this is not the way God had designed the affection and marriage relationship. The bible says” let the husband render to his wife the affection due to her, and likewise also the wife to her husband” (I Corinthians 7:3). The word of God also says: there is but “a time to embrace” beloved ones, when you are married it is time. Although I have noticed in men that affection is never the number one in the list of their priority and no wonder men often see sex and affection as being the same but sincerely speaking they are not the same. Men should know that the women’s greatest need is affection. And so, if you are in a marital relationship that lack true affection, don’t loss hopes apply prayers ask the heavenly father the author of affection and marriage to transform your spouse and I know he will definitely be glad to answer you because he is the God of all flesh. Conclusion: do you have problem in your marriage relationship? Are you single and you want to choose a partner? Why don’t you visit my blog? www.affectionandmarrige.com or www.aceparentingtips.blogspot.com and drop your request and prayers point, we would help you to pray and counsel you. Doesn’t worry it is free services, God bless you! SHALOM.
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On my own part, the wife-Abegbe, I felt much guilty about the way I was feeling and I do not want to hurt or critise my husband-Akanni, but the fact remain that, I myself had not know affection even as a child too, and that is the reason I needed it so much in my marriage relationship. My situation got more tuff and tuff because one day I confronted my husband-Akanni with this problem and truly, my husband-Akanni at times would try to change but sooner things were always back to the same old story. And as a result of this my experience there was a great frustration and hurt in our marriage relationship. And I became hopeless and I was seriously dying inside of me. To me I could not imagine how I will live the rest of my life without affection and worse still, since I saw no hope of my husband-Akanni being change. One day, I was in this critical situation of my relationship when something suggested to my heart to apply prayers and immediately I got up and I went to my pastor, I mean our church pastor and I narrated my bitter experience to him and what my spirit told me to do. And trust our pastor, PTS O.J. Raheem, he did not waste a single time at all, he calls some prayer warriors and they immediately covered it in prayers even at every week of prayer meetings. And to my greatest shock God miraculously worked on my husband-Akanni and our situation turn around for better and I mean there was a serious radical turn around in our affection and marriage relationship up till date. My Comment:-having look around the world, my observation as a pastor, a researcher and marriage counselor reveals that Mr. Akanni and Mrs. Abegbe’s situation is never a rare one among couples in affection and marriage relationship. Many, even the so called godly men and women are living in an affection and marriage relationship that is already dead, why? Because there is o true, and living affection among them. Some spouse endures simply because their husbands are good in other ways or they do not bold enough to ask for the true. Living affection but sincerely this is not the way God had designed the affection and marriage relationship. The bible says” let the husband render to his wife the affection due to her, and likewise also the wife to her husband” (I Corinthians 7:3). The word of God also says: there is but “a time to embrace” beloved ones, when you are married it is time. Although I have noticed in men that affection is never the number one in the list of their priority and no wonder men often see sex and affection as being the same but sincerely speaking they are not the same. Men should know that the women’s greatest need is affection. And so, if you are in a marital relationship that lack true affection, don’t loss hopes apply prayers ask the heavenly father the author of affection and marriage to transform your spouse and I know he will definitely be glad to answer you because he is the God of all flesh. Conclusion: do you have problem in your marriage relationship? Are you single and you want to choose a partner? Why don’t you visit my blog? www.affectionandmarrige.com or www.aceparentingtips.blogspot.com and drop your request and prayers point, we would help you to pray and counsel you. Doesn’t worry it is free services, God bless you! SHALOM.
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Thursday, October 8, 2009
THE FACTS YOU MUST KNOW ABOUT AFFECTION AND MARRIAGE RELATIONSHIP
To Every flower rose there are thorns. And so to every affection and marriage relationship there are thorns.
Flowers are very delightful to the sight because of colour combinations. They are also very pleasurable to hold because of there tender and soft texture with sweet fragrance. I also noticed that among all sweet smelling shrubs, rose flowers has no rivals. It is an ingredient for perfume. Also every rose flower has a unique design or what I called pattern. For example the sparkling colour arrangement and composition that has small sections of radiating edges from the centre. More so, rose flower is use in figure of speech for description; for example if you have a rose colour perception means to view things as bright and cheerful. But of all these powerful description about rose flower yet there is no rose stem or bonquet without thorns. And to tell you the truth so also is in affection and marriage relationship. Thorns are part of its design to be attractive and beautiful to sight and as well as guarded about with prickles and thorns. In other words, I have not seen a complete, unalloyed happiness, joy without some discomfort and disadvantages. Or have you seen any? Please click here to tell me.http://affectionandmarriage.com/blog/
This is a perfect description of practical side and requirement of any affection and marriage relationship. Marriage celebration usually gladdens the heart of the spectators and as well as sweetens the emotion of the participants, But do not forget that affection and marriage has a kind of self – built defense mechanism (prickles from both spouses) to guard against vulnerability and transparency. Marriage is delightful to the sight so well that the numbers of those who get married/wedded daily outbid and out do and even out match the population of divorce rate. The fact is that every marriage has its own unique design that does not necessarily fit into another or that is not practicable by imitation by another couple. And I mean every home has is own peculiarities that make it seems very similar but all the same different .
The prickles of marriage are hunting points in the life of both spouses who came into the relationship with some chronic wounded-past and current issues to nurse though curable. Affection and marriage is relationship between two adults but involve four persons (two adult with a childish longing or yearning In each or both) who expect establishment of home with promises of comfort, but are confronted with conflicts of inner child of the past. Marriage is a bed of roses with the prickles under the pillow! For every rain fall (divine blessing and mercy), the rose seedling will grow in its vine yard or garden. It is the duall responsibility of both couples to sing a duet of pruning that will remove the natural design of prickles in rose flower if the couples are not going to engage in duel. This is a fact that any one in affection and marriage must know and agree with.
Flowers are very delightful to the sight because of colour combinations. They are also very pleasurable to hold because of there tender and soft texture with sweet fragrance. I also noticed that among all sweet smelling shrubs, rose flowers has no rivals. It is an ingredient for perfume. Also every rose flower has a unique design or what I called pattern. For example the sparkling colour arrangement and composition that has small sections of radiating edges from the centre. More so, rose flower is use in figure of speech for description; for example if you have a rose colour perception means to view things as bright and cheerful. But of all these powerful description about rose flower yet there is no rose stem or bonquet without thorns. And to tell you the truth so also is in affection and marriage relationship. Thorns are part of its design to be attractive and beautiful to sight and as well as guarded about with prickles and thorns. In other words, I have not seen a complete, unalloyed happiness, joy without some discomfort and disadvantages. Or have you seen any? Please click here to tell me.http://affectionandmarriage.com/blog/
This is a perfect description of practical side and requirement of any affection and marriage relationship. Marriage celebration usually gladdens the heart of the spectators and as well as sweetens the emotion of the participants, But do not forget that affection and marriage has a kind of self – built defense mechanism (prickles from both spouses) to guard against vulnerability and transparency. Marriage is delightful to the sight so well that the numbers of those who get married/wedded daily outbid and out do and even out match the population of divorce rate. The fact is that every marriage has its own unique design that does not necessarily fit into another or that is not practicable by imitation by another couple. And I mean every home has is own peculiarities that make it seems very similar but all the same different .
The prickles of marriage are hunting points in the life of both spouses who came into the relationship with some chronic wounded-past and current issues to nurse though curable. Affection and marriage is relationship between two adults but involve four persons (two adult with a childish longing or yearning In each or both) who expect establishment of home with promises of comfort, but are confronted with conflicts of inner child of the past. Marriage is a bed of roses with the prickles under the pillow! For every rain fall (divine blessing and mercy), the rose seedling will grow in its vine yard or garden. It is the duall responsibility of both couples to sing a duet of pruning that will remove the natural design of prickles in rose flower if the couples are not going to engage in duel. This is a fact that any one in affection and marriage must know and agree with.
Sunday, October 4, 2009
What You Need to Do About a Troubled Marriage
A troubled marriage is not something that is uncommon in this day and age. The fact is that there are a lot of couples trapped in marriages that they don't care about.
This is a situation that you will want to avoid. Do not let problems drag on or stay unsolved. This will just bury them for a certain time, but the resentments will continue to build up.
A troubled marriage will not get any better on its own. You and your partner will need to make a decision to try and solve any situations that can be solved. Or agree to accept certain situations which are beyond your control.
Clearly the initial step is to look at your marriage and try to work out the problem areas. It would be a good idea to write these issues down. You may find that your partner may have a slightly different list to the one that you have.
This may come as a surprise to you, as you may have been unaware of certain problems. However try to keep in mind that your partner has their own thoughts about things and you need to respect that.
The next thing is to try and sit down together and go through the problems one at a time. Try to work out ways how you can find a solution to the problem that is going to be acceptable to both of you. If it cannot be resolved, move onto to the next one, and come back to this one later on.
This exercise may seem a simple method of trying to solve a troubled marriage, but in reality it can be difficult. You must both agree prior to this exercise that you will both look at each problem objectively and try to see each other's point of view.
The other major issue of a marriage getting into trouble is boredom. We all fall into a trap of habits where each day is much the same as the previous one. This results in a lack of excitement and eventually a lack of interest. Try to come up with ideas which are new and fresh, that you can both do together.
Try to remember how fresh your relationship was in the beginning. Figure out why this changed, and what changes you can make to bring this freshness back into your lives. The worst thing that you can do is to leave things how they are, and just go through the motions each day.
A troubled marriage can be changed easily enough, if you are both prepared to put in the time and effort.
This is a situation that you will want to avoid. Do not let problems drag on or stay unsolved. This will just bury them for a certain time, but the resentments will continue to build up.
A troubled marriage will not get any better on its own. You and your partner will need to make a decision to try and solve any situations that can be solved. Or agree to accept certain situations which are beyond your control.
Clearly the initial step is to look at your marriage and try to work out the problem areas. It would be a good idea to write these issues down. You may find that your partner may have a slightly different list to the one that you have.
This may come as a surprise to you, as you may have been unaware of certain problems. However try to keep in mind that your partner has their own thoughts about things and you need to respect that.
The next thing is to try and sit down together and go through the problems one at a time. Try to work out ways how you can find a solution to the problem that is going to be acceptable to both of you. If it cannot be resolved, move onto to the next one, and come back to this one later on.
This exercise may seem a simple method of trying to solve a troubled marriage, but in reality it can be difficult. You must both agree prior to this exercise that you will both look at each problem objectively and try to see each other's point of view.
The other major issue of a marriage getting into trouble is boredom. We all fall into a trap of habits where each day is much the same as the previous one. This results in a lack of excitement and eventually a lack of interest. Try to come up with ideas which are new and fresh, that you can both do together.
Try to remember how fresh your relationship was in the beginning. Figure out why this changed, and what changes you can make to bring this freshness back into your lives. The worst thing that you can do is to leave things how they are, and just go through the motions each day.
A troubled marriage can be changed easily enough, if you are both prepared to put in the time and effort.
How Can I Save My Marriage Quickly!
Is your marriage that you once thought would last forever, crumbling around your ears? Have you and your partner, hit a turning point in your relationship that could either go one way or the other? Do you think your marriage is irretrievable, and heading headlong down the dizzy spiral towards divorce. If this is you, then you need to find answers, and you need to find them fast. So in order to answer the question How can I save my marriage quickly, you need to act now!
Like you, I was in a desperate situation when my marriage was all but over. I was endlessly searching for that one solution, that one quick fix that would give me all the answers on how i could save my marriage fast. I knew I couldn't do it on my own and I needed help, but I just didn't know where to turn. So in desperation the only thing I could think of doing was to start begging my partner for forgiveness, even though I knew it wasn't all my fault. This only made the situation worse. It wasn't until I learned to start thinking rationally, that I thought I might be able to save my marriage quickly!
I began to realise that If I was going to repair my marriage I needed to look at myself, not the faults of my partner. If change was going to happen then I was going to have to initiate it. So I started to look at my partner in a different light. Thinking back to the day that I met her and how she made my heart skip a beat every time I saw her.
A good thing to remember is that your partner might have changed, but then again, probably so have you! So focus on the good things about your partner and think about how they have enhanced your life and what they bring to the partnership. If your partner feels that you are compassionate and caring, then this will reflect on them and they will feel more positive towards you.
Like you, I was in a desperate situation when my marriage was all but over. I was endlessly searching for that one solution, that one quick fix that would give me all the answers on how i could save my marriage fast. I knew I couldn't do it on my own and I needed help, but I just didn't know where to turn. So in desperation the only thing I could think of doing was to start begging my partner for forgiveness, even though I knew it wasn't all my fault. This only made the situation worse. It wasn't until I learned to start thinking rationally, that I thought I might be able to save my marriage quickly!
I began to realise that If I was going to repair my marriage I needed to look at myself, not the faults of my partner. If change was going to happen then I was going to have to initiate it. So I started to look at my partner in a different light. Thinking back to the day that I met her and how she made my heart skip a beat every time I saw her.
A good thing to remember is that your partner might have changed, but then again, probably so have you! So focus on the good things about your partner and think about how they have enhanced your life and what they bring to the partnership. If your partner feels that you are compassionate and caring, then this will reflect on them and they will feel more positive towards you.
Soul Mate For Marriage
As children, we often look around us and observe the relationships of the adults in our lives. We see the love that they have for one another and wonder about marriage. From there, we start to dream and think of all the things that we would like our future husband or wife to look like. Would we like for them to be tall? Perhaps we would prefer someone that is shorter than ourselves. Maybe we find that there is a certain eye color that seems to hold our attention more than the others. The older we get, the more we perfect what they should look like. We meet potential mates and pick the characteristics that we find most attractive and transfer them into the idea of our future mate will posses. We start to dream of how we will meet them. Then we do, and everything we could have ever hoped for is there before us for the taking. They sweep you off your feet and share similar life goals and finally...propose!
Nothing is better than starting a life with the person that we have spent your whole life dreaming and preparing for. The fun of planning the wedding celebration begins. As a couple, you get to plan the perfect blend of your personalities and put them into party form to share with your family and friends.
Nothing will ever be the same but one thing is for sure, life will defiantly be interesting and new. With communication, understanding, and the determination to love each other unconditionally, your marriage will stand the test of time.
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Nothing is better than starting a life with the person that we have spent your whole life dreaming and preparing for. The fun of planning the wedding celebration begins. As a couple, you get to plan the perfect blend of your personalities and put them into party form to share with your family and friends.
Nothing will ever be the same but one thing is for sure, life will defiantly be interesting and new. With communication, understanding, and the determination to love each other unconditionally, your marriage will stand the test of time.
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Keep the Flame Burning - Dating After You're Married
Why? Because dating is a fun way to keep the flame burning in your relationship, long after you thought your dating days were over. Dating your partner after helps to strengthen your relationship and build a lasting marriage.
Sadly these days, too many marriages end in divorce. We lose the connection and everything else seems more important. The trouble is that over time, we can easily begin to take each other for granted. And like a garden that grows wild without attention, your relationship begins to lose its blossom. However, if you're willing to make the effort, if you will invest the time and care into it, you can make your relationship bloom once again.
So how can you do this? The answer is simple, by spending time together in mutually enjoyable activities or at social events in which you both share an interest. In other words, by dating again.
To get started, you should you both choose a night that you know you'll be able to make. Put it on your calendar and stick to it. Select something that you can both do together and that will be great fun. Perhaps you could take a sushi-making class together or go to a special event such as a concert or a film premiere. Anything that gets you out of the house and doing something together is a great place to start.
It doesn't have to be extravagant, although when it's your turn to think up a date, your partner would certainly appreciate something exclusive and special. Perhaps they have a favourite chef and you could book a table at their restaurant. Maybe they've always wanted to experience the ballet or have a picnic and see an opera performed at Glyndebourne. Whatever it is, it's not just about the money that you spend; it's really the thought that counts.
So think up some ideas, jot them down and share them with your loved one. Make the most of the time you have together and don't end up sitting in front of the telly night after night. Make a commitment to spend one evening a month or even one evening a week going out on a date together. You'll have forgotten how much fun it is to relax and unwind with your best half.
Don't forget, you don't have to just do things you've done before. Why not try things that are completely new to you both. Keep the fire burning!
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Sadly these days, too many marriages end in divorce. We lose the connection and everything else seems more important. The trouble is that over time, we can easily begin to take each other for granted. And like a garden that grows wild without attention, your relationship begins to lose its blossom. However, if you're willing to make the effort, if you will invest the time and care into it, you can make your relationship bloom once again.
So how can you do this? The answer is simple, by spending time together in mutually enjoyable activities or at social events in which you both share an interest. In other words, by dating again.
To get started, you should you both choose a night that you know you'll be able to make. Put it on your calendar and stick to it. Select something that you can both do together and that will be great fun. Perhaps you could take a sushi-making class together or go to a special event such as a concert or a film premiere. Anything that gets you out of the house and doing something together is a great place to start.
It doesn't have to be extravagant, although when it's your turn to think up a date, your partner would certainly appreciate something exclusive and special. Perhaps they have a favourite chef and you could book a table at their restaurant. Maybe they've always wanted to experience the ballet or have a picnic and see an opera performed at Glyndebourne. Whatever it is, it's not just about the money that you spend; it's really the thought that counts.
So think up some ideas, jot them down and share them with your loved one. Make the most of the time you have together and don't end up sitting in front of the telly night after night. Make a commitment to spend one evening a month or even one evening a week going out on a date together. You'll have forgotten how much fun it is to relax and unwind with your best half.
Don't forget, you don't have to just do things you've done before. Why not try things that are completely new to you both. Keep the fire burning!
Whether you're young or old, single, engaged or married, if you want to enjoy a long and successful relationship, why not get our free e-guide 'Now You've Got Her, Keep Her!' by visiting Your London Wedding Planner.
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Thursday, October 1, 2009
Marriage Counseling For Newly Weds
When people get married, they never expect that squabbles and little arguments will come up from time to time, but they do. This is where marriage counseling comes in to help people solve those major or minor misunderstandings they might be having. Mostly this counseling is for newly weds because if you have already done fifty years together in a marriage, I hardly doubt you will need marriage counseling.
Free marriage counseling is available, mostly in your community or home church. Getting marriage counseling does not mean that you cannot understand each other it is just means that you want to understand each other better. Rushing into a divorce can become messing especially if there is love still lingering. There are several counselors who are available for free marriage counseling. They do not have to be your priest, however if your priest or pastor is doing a bang off job then stick to him. If the misunderstanding is not so big you might want to look for free advice first.
You can look through the internet for free advice or where you can get free counseling especially if it is very important. Sustain a marriage and making sure it works is important. That is why if you are offered any kind of counseling advice even from your parents it is best you take it and try and work through it. Family is always important and if they decide they want to give you advice on your marriage then you should take it. They care for you and want things to go well for you and only you can make the marriage work if you heed to their advice.
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Free marriage counseling is available, mostly in your community or home church. Getting marriage counseling does not mean that you cannot understand each other it is just means that you want to understand each other better. Rushing into a divorce can become messing especially if there is love still lingering. There are several counselors who are available for free marriage counseling. They do not have to be your priest, however if your priest or pastor is doing a bang off job then stick to him. If the misunderstanding is not so big you might want to look for free advice first.
You can look through the internet for free advice or where you can get free counseling especially if it is very important. Sustain a marriage and making sure it works is important. That is why if you are offered any kind of counseling advice even from your parents it is best you take it and try and work through it. Family is always important and if they decide they want to give you advice on your marriage then you should take it. They care for you and want things to go well for you and only you can make the marriage work if you heed to their advice.
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Marriage Counseling - Keep Your Husband Satisfied at Home and Save Your Marriage
Husbands by and large give varied reasons for seeking sexual or emotional fulfillment outside the home. But one thing is for sure, many of them were not getting the type of fulfillment they hoped for at home. Some had unrealistic expectations while others were asking for the basic needs that a wife should fulfill.
Now, we do not condone a cheating spouse and do not believe that any situation should cause a partner to seek satisfaction from anyone apart from his wife. Nevertheless, the truth remains that many husbands do this and it is up to you to safeguard the purity and sanctity of your marriage.
Men generally have a higher sex drive than women (although you have many marriages with the reverse) therefore, as wives we need to be willing to give much more to create a balance and two way satisfaction in our marriage.
There are too many women out there who would be willing to satisfy your spouse at the drop of a pin. So, if you are not doing it you may be asking for trouble.
Let us look at some simple but powerful ways that you can keep your husband satisfied at home:
A Peaceful Home
Nothing is more unappealing than a home mixed with strife, a nagging wife and constant arguing. If your home is not peaceful then your husband may not want to be there. He may seek a more peaceful environment somewhere else.
Therefore, if as he comes through the door you bombard him with all the negatives, this is what he will grow to expect and in his eyes you are not that loving and considerate he hoped for.
Now, he may not be the loving and considerate husband you also hoped for and if this is the case we would advice you to get your feeling out in the open once and for all and come up with a plan as a couple.
A Daring Spirit
Men love adventure, action and escapades. You need to ensure that he receives all of that at home.
Some wives are too rigid and are unwilling to try new things. My advice to every wife is to be daring and adventurous with your husbands once it is in the guidelines of just the two of you. No one else and nothing else.
You can rent a hotel for the night and meet up there. Do a strip tease for him and so many other ideas that take creativity and some amount of planning.
A Loving Heart
Pleasing your spouse really boils down to a loving heart. Do you love him enough to keep him satisfied? Take some time this week better understand him. What his likes and dislikes are and how you fit it. Many couples have been living together for years and still do not know these basic things about their spouse.
If you want to take your marriage to a new and renewed height then put your whole heart in it and you will be amazed at the possibilities.
Do you want to have a passionate and steaming hot marriage? Life is too short to spend it wishing things were different when you can do something about it. Get your FREE marriage Ecourse Today!
About the Authors:
Mark and Lesia Gregory are Marriage Counselors & Wedding Planners with over 10 years of experience. They are the authors of: "The Marriage Thermometer - Let's get your marriage steaming hot; "Improve Your Sex Life; "Keep Him Satisfied......At Home and "The Wife Toolkit - 12 heavy duty tools to keep your wife happy
Now, we do not condone a cheating spouse and do not believe that any situation should cause a partner to seek satisfaction from anyone apart from his wife. Nevertheless, the truth remains that many husbands do this and it is up to you to safeguard the purity and sanctity of your marriage.
Men generally have a higher sex drive than women (although you have many marriages with the reverse) therefore, as wives we need to be willing to give much more to create a balance and two way satisfaction in our marriage.
There are too many women out there who would be willing to satisfy your spouse at the drop of a pin. So, if you are not doing it you may be asking for trouble.
Let us look at some simple but powerful ways that you can keep your husband satisfied at home:
A Peaceful Home
Nothing is more unappealing than a home mixed with strife, a nagging wife and constant arguing. If your home is not peaceful then your husband may not want to be there. He may seek a more peaceful environment somewhere else.
Therefore, if as he comes through the door you bombard him with all the negatives, this is what he will grow to expect and in his eyes you are not that loving and considerate he hoped for.
Now, he may not be the loving and considerate husband you also hoped for and if this is the case we would advice you to get your feeling out in the open once and for all and come up with a plan as a couple.
A Daring Spirit
Men love adventure, action and escapades. You need to ensure that he receives all of that at home.
Some wives are too rigid and are unwilling to try new things. My advice to every wife is to be daring and adventurous with your husbands once it is in the guidelines of just the two of you. No one else and nothing else.
You can rent a hotel for the night and meet up there. Do a strip tease for him and so many other ideas that take creativity and some amount of planning.
A Loving Heart
Pleasing your spouse really boils down to a loving heart. Do you love him enough to keep him satisfied? Take some time this week better understand him. What his likes and dislikes are and how you fit it. Many couples have been living together for years and still do not know these basic things about their spouse.
If you want to take your marriage to a new and renewed height then put your whole heart in it and you will be amazed at the possibilities.
Do you want to have a passionate and steaming hot marriage? Life is too short to spend it wishing things were different when you can do something about it. Get your FREE marriage Ecourse Today!
About the Authors:
Mark and Lesia Gregory are Marriage Counselors & Wedding Planners with over 10 years of experience. They are the authors of: "The Marriage Thermometer - Let's get your marriage steaming hot; "Improve Your Sex Life; "Keep Him Satisfied......At Home and "The Wife Toolkit - 12 heavy duty tools to keep your wife happy
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