Before we can ask how to have a happy marriage we must also ask what IS a happy marriage. This can be so different from couple to couple that sometimes we can get lost in a sea of clichés.
The classic 1950's working husband and stay at home wife with kids.
The urban couple married with cats.
The large extended family.
The Brady bunch blended family.
and many more
The problem with all of these is that we are all trying to conform to stereotypical norms from what we have seen around us and often from what we see on TV!
Real happy marriages come from good communication and a desire to build happiness not concentrate on problems. The vision we aim for can be helpful but should never interfere with the journey we are on and should not stop us doing things differently out of fear that we are breaking some sort of pact.
There are many ways to approach how to have a happy marriage but the first is to find your roles within the marriage. You do not necessarily need to be "the breadwinner" or "the homemaker" or any other clichés. You need to determine whose strengths go where and compliment each other in all things that you do. The best relationships come where both people have turns at being the leader in certain things such as cooking, finances, child rearing, home maintenance, family outing planning and so forth. This means no one is dominant, conflict is reduces and you can create your own marriage and family vision from what works best.
Sunday, July 26, 2009
Foundation For A Happy Home
Every building starts with a foundation. Whether a building will stand the test of time or not depends on the strength of the foundation. This also applies to marriage. If a marriage is not built on a solid foundation, it cannot support a happy home. The reason why many marriages around us have collapsed is just because they were contracted on a faulty foundation.
Every marriage is subjected at one time or the other to some kind of storms and rain. Whether it will fall or stand depends on the foundation. You can avoid that by making up your mind now to build your mind on the right foundation.
For any marriage to succeed there must be mutual agreement between the two people that will live together forever. You must personally be convinced and love the person you are about to marry for the foundation to be right.
To build your marriage on the right foundation, you have to build your home in accordance with the word of God. To build on the right foundation, you should abide by the command of God which says 'Don not be bound together with unbelievers'.
To build your marriage on the right foundation, you have to be sincere and open especially during courtship. Be sincere about your family, life, likes and dislikes. This will enable you make the required adjustments. There should be no pretensions.
Proper knowledge is an important foundation for a happy home. When you know the reason for going into marriage, have proper knowledge of what is expected of you when married, it reduces a lot of friction when you eventually marry.
Every marriage is subjected at one time or the other to some kind of storms and rain. Whether it will fall or stand depends on the foundation. You can avoid that by making up your mind now to build your mind on the right foundation.
For any marriage to succeed there must be mutual agreement between the two people that will live together forever. You must personally be convinced and love the person you are about to marry for the foundation to be right.
To build your marriage on the right foundation, you have to build your home in accordance with the word of God. To build on the right foundation, you should abide by the command of God which says 'Don not be bound together with unbelievers'.
To build your marriage on the right foundation, you have to be sincere and open especially during courtship. Be sincere about your family, life, likes and dislikes. This will enable you make the required adjustments. There should be no pretensions.
Proper knowledge is an important foundation for a happy home. When you know the reason for going into marriage, have proper knowledge of what is expected of you when married, it reduces a lot of friction when you eventually marry.
How to Have a Long, Happy Marriage With Your Polish Wife
Finding a Polish woman to marry can be enough of a challenge on its own, but it's even harder to keep your marriage happy, healthy, and strong. Marriage is a lifelong commitment between two people to work together and you ought to remember that to help your new relationship flourish. Always live each day as if it was your last together, and treat your bride with as a queen. Meanwhile, here are some effective tips on how to keep your Polish partner lucky.
One of the common traits of Polish women is their affinity to say what they think without sugar-coating it. You must concede this fact and love her anyway. Always accept your partner for who she is and give her your everlasting devotion and love. And forever be polite as that is something that goes a long way with Polish women.
Another thing that you can do to show your Polish companion how much she means to you is to buy her a bouquet of flowers. Nearly every woman likes to collect plants, and they are a great gift for any occasion. It's the small gestures like nice surprises and gifts that truly show a woman how much you love them.
You must also always be a gentleman to your bride and treat your partner as a princess and show her the utmost respect. Polish women demand men to be chivalrous by doing thoughtful things like holding doors open for them and making sure they are well taken care of.
One of the best things that you can do to keep your Polish companion jovial is too welcome her ethnicity and culture with open arms and make it a part of your lives. There are many interesting aspects of Poland's country that you can adopt inside your home, like eating Polish food, sporting their clothing, listening to Polish musicians, enjoying movies made in Poland, and even trying to learn the Polish language. Your new spouse will definitely be impressed with your open-mindedness and willingness to appreciate and embrace her culture.
So by following all these steps, and by always taking the time and making the effort to show your consort your love and respect, you will not only make your Polish wife very glad but also guarantee a strong and joyful matrimony for a long time to come.
One of the common traits of Polish women is their affinity to say what they think without sugar-coating it. You must concede this fact and love her anyway. Always accept your partner for who she is and give her your everlasting devotion and love. And forever be polite as that is something that goes a long way with Polish women.
Another thing that you can do to show your Polish companion how much she means to you is to buy her a bouquet of flowers. Nearly every woman likes to collect plants, and they are a great gift for any occasion. It's the small gestures like nice surprises and gifts that truly show a woman how much you love them.
You must also always be a gentleman to your bride and treat your partner as a princess and show her the utmost respect. Polish women demand men to be chivalrous by doing thoughtful things like holding doors open for them and making sure they are well taken care of.
One of the best things that you can do to keep your Polish companion jovial is too welcome her ethnicity and culture with open arms and make it a part of your lives. There are many interesting aspects of Poland's country that you can adopt inside your home, like eating Polish food, sporting their clothing, listening to Polish musicians, enjoying movies made in Poland, and even trying to learn the Polish language. Your new spouse will definitely be impressed with your open-mindedness and willingness to appreciate and embrace her culture.
So by following all these steps, and by always taking the time and making the effort to show your consort your love and respect, you will not only make your Polish wife very glad but also guarantee a strong and joyful matrimony for a long time to come.
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